The hardest thing about using dating websites is definitely getting her to actually respond to your emails. For some reason, women on dating sites are just hard to get ahold of. Nobody is quite sure why. Maybe they’re being picky, maybe the emailing system is flawed in a lot of these sites, or maybe they’re just shy. Either way, you have to get that date somehow, and before that you have to get her to respond. If you’ve had issues with this in the past, try switching things up in your messages and watch as you get much better results.
Personalize the Subject
Instead of sending a general email with the title relating to the site or just calling it a message about her profile, consider switching it up instead. Title it something like, “Hey, Pretty Redhead,” rather than, “Hey,” and you’ll notice a drastic change. Making your title relate to her will let her know you’re legit and that you spent long enough time on her profile to learn a little about her. Generic email titles often get written off as just spam, especially when you’re not using a mainstream dating site. Keep her from deleting your emails without even reading them by calling her out personally in the title.
Personalize the Message
After you’ve lured her in with an eye-catching title, don’t bore her with a generic message. You worked too hard on the title to lose her at the body, so take your time and personalize that as well. Maybe pluck out something that you find interesting on her profile, or an interest that you both share. Ask her a question so that she feels more obligated to respond, like whether or not she’s seen her favorite band in concert or what her favorite movie is. She’ll be more than happy to answer you, and you won’t seem creepy at all. What seems creepy to her is a message just telling her that you looked at her profile and liked what you saw. Show her that you care about her as a person, not just a cute picture.
Don’t Be Too Forward
Even if you really want to shoot her an email about what great tits she has, refrain. Especially if you’re trying to get a date, having your opening line be about her anatomy will turn her off faster than you can blink. You should also never talk about meeting up right from the start, or else your message is probably going straight to her trash bin. It seems shifty to get a message from some guy she’s never talked to before saying that you want to meet her. She will most likely never respond to these sorts of messages. You might want to meet her, but you have to talk her up first or else you’ll just scare her away. Make your first email to her pretty safe and unassuming. Make it seem like you just want to talk to her because you liked her profile so much.