There’s a lot at stake when you fill out an online dating profile. You can make or break a match with a single sentence. Men do this all the time when they break out the advanced classics to fill in their favorite books. “War and Peace” and “Anna Karenina” might sound like great options. Deep, classic literature, hard to get through and taught to be classics of the age. Maybe you struggled through one that came free with your Kindle. However, the truth is that you’re trying to appeal to two types of women with your profile: women who like to read and women who don’t. Neither type is impressed with these weighty titles, and here’s why.
Women Who Don’t Like to Read
When a woman who doesn’t enjoy reading looks at a profile where the author gushes about “War and Peace”, here’s what she sees: “Hi, I’m an elitist snob! I like to make other people look stupid, and I’m making sure that everyone knows it by putting a long, thick, unpleasant book as my favorite one!” Chances are good that you didn’t mean any of that when you wrote it down, but that’s what she’s going to see. She’ll backspace off of your profile and you’ll never hear from her at all, because you gave the impression that all you do is sit in a coffee shop, reading thick books and looking down on others.
Even at a slightly less drastic response, a girl who doesn’t read is going to think that your answer is boring. The fact that you like this book isn’t going to hook her interest. She’s heard of it before, and if she hasn’t read it by now she’s not going to read it because you like it. So she’s not going to find anything in common with you, and she’s also going to leave your profile.
Women Who Do Like to Read
Putting down “The Great Gatsby” as your favorite book makes it sound like you haven’t read a book since high school. Even if it is your favorite, it’s too mainstream. It’s too common. You’d get more interest if you wrote a glowing review of a book that most people haven’t read; you might just get someone’s attention that way. Interest is an important thing, so get a reader’s attention by making interesting book choices.
Honestly, picking a great work of literature as your favorite book on a dating site just screams “trying too hard!” no matter how you look at it. Sometimes, people lie online. If your favorite book in the world is “Anna Karenina,” then now’s the time to lie. Pick a different favorite, and then when you are actually discussing books with a girl, you can show her the brilliance and subtly you love about that classic novel.