Exploring Your Alt Side
There are really only two things that you need to ask yourself before signing up for a legit alternative dating site: how over other people are you? Do you care about what they think, or are you pretty interested in running your own show?
Seeing if the lifestyle suits you is the first step.
Starting out on a free alternative dating site might be the way that you should try first. There’s honestly nothing for you to lose, especially if you have the free time on your hands to log on, chat up a few ladies, and see what they’re into and if it appeals to you.
Obviously, you must already like the look and style, so it might be time to jump aboard that train and give it a shot yourself rather than just admire it from afar. Working the style is really part of the package that alternative women are going to want, so it’s up to you how far you want to commit.
The more you commit, the better your chances in general.
Don’t think about what your employees are going to think, or what your friends are going to think. This isn’t about getting approval from them, because that isn’t what the alternative lifestyle is about. We understand being a little unsure at first, but getting your feet wet is going to make everything much more exciting later on.
The more that you accept that this is about you and your needs, the happier you are going to be…and the more ready you’re going to be to jump on a real alternative dating site. Just be comfortable, be yourself, and have a blast with your personal style. It’s really the best way to get into alt culture, and to further explore the exciting sides of it that you know not many people are into.
It’s not all about personal style.
You don’t have to rock out bright orange hair, half a dozen piercings, and a brand new tattoo in order to fit in with the alternative lifestyle. It might help you get your foot in the door, but if you can’t talk the talk as well as walk the walk, no alternative woman is really going to want to go home with you.
The thing is, a woman’s going to be able to spot it if you’re just a poser. Don’t try and turn your shirt inside out so it looks black, and don’t put a studded bracelet on your wrist in hopes of drawing the alt crowd to you in an instant. It’s not going to work. You’re mostly going to look like a Hot Topic reject, and trust us, that’s not a look that any alternative woman is going to chase after.
It’s about what you’re into, too.
When we talk about what you’re into, it’s not necessarily that you’re into tattoos, or piercings, or body mod. Those are huge parts of alternative culture to be sure, and there are subsections of alt culture that are completely devoted to their new tats and showing them off.
There are people that plan out their new tattoos with artists for months, for example, and if that’s something that you’re into, then we can only tell you to go for it. There’s definitely going to be a woman out there that’s into the exact same thing.
That being said, it’s also about what kind of kinks you’re into in the bedroom. There are tons of different alt cultures that focus around bondage, BDSM, and other ‘alternative’, kinky realms of sex. These are the kinds of things that you might have always wanted to experiment with, but have never actually had the chance to. With the right alt woman to play around with, you might find yourself closer to it than ever before.
That’s why getting your feet wet is so important.
By trying out different alternative dating sites, you’ll find yourself with many different opportunities to meet many different kinds of women. You’ll have all the chances in the world when it comes to figuring out what you like, what you’re into, and what honestly doesn’t jive with you.
The best thing that we can suggest to you is to keep an open mind. You might stumble across an alternative woman that honestly isn’t modded out, but she might be rocking some other kind of alternative style. Biker chicks are also considered to be alt women, an they definitely don’t give a damn about what you think of them. That might be the kind of thing that you’re actually pretty into…but you just don’t know it yet.
The more you try, the more experience you’re going to have.
Alternative women will find that kind of experience sexy and alluring, just as much as you find them alluring in turn. The more chances you have to jump aboard a different ship, so to speak, we really suggest that you take it.
If you’re ready to start dying your hair and changing your wardrobe, that’s fine. It’s a start that will definitely get you out there, and help you wander around more gracefully when you’re still trying to figure out what you like. Remember, the alternative world is actually as open-minded as we keep telling you to be, and they’re not exactly going to get on your case if you aren’t the spitting image of a rockabilly boy right off the bat.
Try a lot of things, and narrow down your personal interests.
The more you know, the more you’re going to realize about yourself…and the things that you don’t like, too. That’s just as important as knowing what you like, so wade in and come back only when you’re ready.