Practice Makes Perfect
You might think you’re a master of alt dating strategies after you’ve had one successful date, but trust us, you aren’t. We’ve been at this for years, and there’s still something for you to learn along the way. The more you learn, though, the more your game is going to step up, and the more fun you’re going to have in the future on real alternative dating sites.
Keep track of your dating experiences.
We’re serious when we’re telling you to keep something of a little black book. It’s just as important for you to remember the ladies that you’ve been sleeping with as it is for them to remember the guys they’ve been sleeping with.
Don’t forget to jot down the sites that you’ve been using, too. Make notes of your experiences according to the different websites, and it will be much easier for you to keep track of what you’ve been doing…and who you’ve been doing.
The more you do this, the easier it’s going to be for you to leave alternative dating site reviews, too, and trust us, your feedback means a lot to not only the sites themselves, but other people just like you that are wanting to find out about the dating sites that they’re using.
It’s okay for you to mess up.
We’re not perfect. You’re not perfect. The gorgeous, alternative woman that you hooked up with last night isn’t perfect, either. That’s fine, because getting good at this hooking up thing does take practice. We get it. We’ve been there, time and time again.
You shouldn’t beat yourself up if you need up botching a night full of kink and excitement. This especially applies to kinks that you’ve never personally experienced prior to hooking up with this one girl, so just take it easy and relax.
Certain kinks can take a long time to get right, and there’s nothing wrong with that. The really hardcore stuff can be difficult even for those that have been practicing them for years, and so there’s nothing to be ashamed about if you end up messing up a little.
Chances are, she understood, and she isn’t going to care very much, anyway. So long as you were attentive, tried to fix it, and try to prevent it from happening again in the future, there’s nothing for you to worry about.
Using dating sites is just going to take practice.
It’s something of a science, really, and we admit, we’ve had a lot of practice with it. Over time, you’ll start to realize what kinds of things you should always mention in that first e-mail in order to get a woman’s attention, and you’ll be able to snag them up like a pro.
Once you have that sort of thing down pat, it will really just come down to figuring out what the two of you will want to do for the evening. How kinky do you want it to be? What kind of show do you want to go to? Want to get a tattoo together? This is the kind of thing that you’ll be able to arrange at the drop of a hat, all because you’ve mastered the art of online dating.
It will happen, but it might just take a few tries.
If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again. It’s a mantra that you should repeat if your first few dates aren’t up to your expectations. Honestly, we think that if you aren’t happy with the girls that you’re meeting at first that you should aim higher. There’s nothing wrong with wanting better, more exciting dates, so those are the kinds of things you should strive for when you pop onto your next alternative dating site.
There might also be the fact that you want to amp up your sex game, and it didn’t happen on your first couple of dates. We really suggest that you go about this slowly, and that you have a partner that’s totally okay with you experimenting.
As always, discuss any kinks that you want to try out before you jump right into them.
If you want to get into the more hardcore side of kink, this is even more necessary. Think about safe words and limits that you or your partner might have. The deeper you go into the world of kink, the more you are going to have to double and triple-check with your lady that what you’re into is okay with her.
Go easy when it comes to certain kinks.
There are some kinks that if done incorrectly can cause some serious, permanent damage. What comes to mind immediately in the alt community is flogging and caning, so tread carefully if you and the alt woman you’ve hooked up with for the evening are into this sort of thing.
No matter what sort of things you want to get into, take it slow, do your research, and be smart about it. Make sure the hot woman you’ve taken home for the evening is into it, too, and that you’re both on the save wavelength. By checking all of this over, you’ll insure that both of you have an amazing evening that neither of you will forget.